When you looked in the mirror this morning who did you see?
Did you see a tired and sleepy person? Was she angry, sad, hurt, or disappointed? Or, was she smiling, happy, and at peace?
There have been so many mornings, or afternoons, or evenings, when I did not see that smiling, peaceful woman looking back at me and I had to ask myself why.
What was it that was making me angry, or sad, or disappointed and discontent with the person looking back at me? I’m still on that journey of self discovery but I wanted to share two simple things you can do each day to get you started on your journey.
The first thing is really super simple; it involves no internal dialogue whatsoever. All you have to do is smile. Each time you see yourself in the mirror, smile at yourself. If you’re stuck in traffic and find yourself getting irritated just smile. Don’t think anything in particular, just smile.
You will eventually notice subtle changes in your thoughts and behaviors with this one small act of kindness towards yourself. You’ll start to notice yourself smiling at a lot of different random things which has a snowball effect and you’ll smile more and more frequently throughout your day.
Once you’ve got that down (it takes time to turn this into a daily habit but keep at it) tell yourself a positive affirmation. The simplest one for me is “I love you”. Each time you see yourself in the mirror, now you will smile and say “I love you”. You can say it silently to yourself in the beginning because it may feel silly at first but work up your courage to say it out loud.
Words are powerful! So are images, that’s why it’s important to smile at yourself in a mirror so you see the image. The simple smile and positive affirmation of self-love do a lot internally physically, mentally, emotionally, and physiologically so be persistent and eventually you won’t have to think about it at all.
One day you’ll wake up, head to the mirror and you’ll already be smiling and you’ll know the love is there and you’ll feel it within your core. Keep going and start sharing the love as one small act of kindness has a ripple effect throughout the universe.
“Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life.”